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Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Affairs can be fraught with troubles, cause sorrow, and other troubles. Also you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, funds, age dissimilarity, faith education, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the purpose of this article I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating for married.

Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking affairs. I am conserned generally though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several explanations I have run across.

Biologically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to turn the longing on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against married dating. For many people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the catalyst?

Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your relatives or anyone else? You will need to reduce the risk you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest group, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your money are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.

Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage whole.

Ignoring, sadly this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his lady for a large humber of reasons. As a male I really appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.

Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just grown distantly, our ordinary interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The first reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.